Woman wants to know how to turn down her male colleague’s advances “but not hurt his feelings”

A woman took to social media asking others for advice after her male colleague made a move on her. She shared in a post that while she was close to him, she only saw him as a friend.

In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman wrote that they “work together closely and as a friend we also hang out quite a bit. All along i knew he had a thing for me but i was not ready to reciprocate”. The woman added that as of late, the guy offered to do “more “boyfriend” type stuff like sending me home, lovey-dovey messages and small gifts. Recently i came back from a work trip, and he told me “he missed me” and asked me out for dinner”.

In her post, she asked how she could turn down her colleague’s advances without hurting his feelings, as she did not want to ruin their friendship and working relationship.

“Should I outright just have a proactive conversation with him about how i only see him as a friend to set things straight?” she asked.

Here’s what netizens said:

Last month, another man took to social media to call out all females for being so complicated after he found out his girlfriend was lying to him.

In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the man wrote that initially he and his girlfriend were from the same office. However, after they both found new jobs, she met a new male colleague who stays near her so they often take the MRT home together.

“I am abit insecured (sic) I must say and I voiced out that I don’t like her going home alone with the guy. She said okay. However I already have this feeling that she is lying to me”, the boyfriend wrote. He added that his girlfriend would always reply quickly to his messages, except during the hours of 5.30 pm to 6pm when she travels home. When asked why her replies were slow during that time, she said that she was using her phone and playing a game or watching shows on it.

“recently we got into a fight and she blurted out that she lied to me all this while. She was actually with him and she didn’t tell me. because she knew what my reaction would be. I am super hurt and disappointed. She can’t even respect the relationship to avoid this new guy”, her boyfriend wrote.

When the couple worked at the same office previously, the boyfriend used to have lunch with another female colleague his girlfriend hated. “So she told me she doesn’t like this girl and don’t like when I have lunch together even if it’s a group setting (never have I ever been to lunch alone with her or spoke to her about any personal life)”.

He added: “I drew a very clear boundary and tried to avoid having lunch with my group on some days just to avoid the girl. I respected the relationship and didn’t question”.

When the roles were reversed and the boyfriend told his girlfriend not to travel alone with her male colleague, he felt that she did not respect his wishes.

1. “I am thinking if I should call it quits. I think lying is a deal breaker to me. Before you bash me for my reaction, I’d like to make it clear that I’ve never shouted at her, stopped her from talking to guys or ghost her etc. My reaction was just this black face because I don’t like it”, the boyfriend wrote asking why girls are so complicated.

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Boyfriend finds out his girlfriend been lying to him daily to travel from work with a male colleague, asks: “Why are girls such complicated people?”