Man earning S$5K gives his working parents S$500 allowance, expensive gifts and yearly overseas trips, yet they still say he’s useless for not earning S$10K

SINGAPORE: A man earning S$5,000 a month took to social media asking for advice as his parents were placing a lot of pressure on him, financially.

In an anonymous post to confessions page NUSWhispers, the man wrote that he gives his parents an allowance of S$500 a month, expensive gifts every festival and fully paid yearly overseas holidays. “If they cant get what they want they will say i am unfilial etc. Both of them are working yet I don’t understand why they treated me like that”, he wrote. He added that the worst part was that he found it impossible to sit down and talk to them.

“Whenever I explain to them they will ask me to go earn more money and said I am useless for not earning 10k a month like this relatives that relatives”, he wrote. He added that he did not take money from them since he was in Junior College as he worked part-time. His university fees were also covered by a scholarship he won.

“I am in a relationship so I also wanted to save some money for future, is that too much to ask?” the man wrote.

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Earlier this year, a woman took to social media, frustrated with her parents’ favouritism for her younger sister.

In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman wrote that when she was five, her mother was heavily pregnant with her sister. “My request of her to play with me was declined and I threw a tantrum. Can’t remember the details but I fell from the sofa and it ended up with both my mother and me going to the hospital and my sister born premature (7months). She stayed in the ICU for weeks. From then on, I was being reminded by my parents for my “evilness””, the woman wrote.

She added that when her sister was three months old and contracted the flu, it affected her brain. Even this was blamed on the woman because “it’s the premature (sic) that caused her to be weaker hence a small fever affected her brain. (She became a slower learner and needs to attend special school).”

“I usually wear what my cousins passed down while my sisters gets to shop and buy clothes. I get only $5 as pocket money (for recess and lunch) while my sister gets $7. My sisters get to spend their angbao money while I have to give all of them (except yasui angbao) back. Even ny maid is allowed to neglect me but she never did, instead she is the only one who cares about me”, the woman wrote.

Woman says her parents always preferred her sister; they demanded she give $300 of her salary to them and $200 to her sister