Man says his appearance is unsuitable for dating, so he’s afraid to meet women

SINGAPORE: A man who was insecure about how he looked took to social media, asking netizens if it was too late for him. In an anonymous post to popular confessions page NUSWhispers, the man said that he felt his appearance was not suitable for dating and added that he received a lot of rejections in his lifetime.

He explained that he recently joined a dating app that was considered high-end, where it said it “had member requirements like good career, or NUS graduates, people with high income, or women with good looks, etc. Anyway, I joined with my diploma, but it’s kind of frustrating because I see girls contacting me just based on my accomplishment”. He added that he was afraid to meet the woman who contacted him just based on his accomplishments alone.

“I want to love them regardless of what I’ve achieved, but where can I find someone like that? I don’t have much confidence. It is too late?” he asked netizens. Many who commented told him not to give up hope and to gain some confidence before putting himself out there. One wrote: “Please don’t depend on dating apps. They actually stunt a person’s interpersonal and communication skills. Everything is filtered to the point where you can’t tell how much you see online about the other person, is the truth. Just find more real world activities to do and then meet people organically”.

Another netizen commented: “It takes more than appearance to attract a woman. And lack of a handsome face can be offset by career accomplishments, fitness and your behavior. With good career accomplishments, you set the stage right for someone to give you a chance. With fitness, you make her feel attracted to you to continue the date and relationship. With good behavior, you make her feel comfortable and she will find you the package to go for. Keep that up and you got yourself a stable relationship to consider if you should marry her. By then you will have a different set of problems”.